"Sexual attractions and behaviors are more than just identity," he tells. While the rate of straight men watching gay porn may seem unexpected to those outside of the research world, Downing says that his team wasn’t surprised. Bi men, meanwhile, reported watching gay porn at a rate of 96% (nearly as much as the 98.3% of gay men who reported watching gay porn) and straight porn at a rate of 88.3% (a little lower than the 98.5% of straight men who reported watching straight porn). Downing, PhD surveyed 821 men about their porn-viewing habits, they found that 55% of gay men reported watching opposite-gender-oriented porn in the previous six months, while 21% of straight men reported watching same-sex porn in that time frame. Gay men watch men having sex with men, and straight men just want to see naked women, right? A study on gay, straight, and bi men’s porn preferences published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior is newly challenging this notion, as well as helping to answer the question of how men really feel about seeing condom use in their adult entertainment.
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Don’t force yourself into someone else’s box and don’t let anyone tell you how to love.A common belief about gender and porn is that while women of all sexual identities can get turned on by people of all genders, men only like to watch stuff that aligns with their stated orientation. If you’re not sure what you want, get out there and find out. But like most things, it’s different for each and every one of us as happiness comes in all shapes and sizes. I think deep down we’re all looking for our happy ever after. I’m on my own journey of self-discovery as cringe as it sounds. Having a detox from using apps did me the world of good. I got caught in the trap of having the same conversations on Grindr, getting frustrated at the same situations.
I’ve not done either since last summer (I know), but I needed a reset. I recently had a break from dating and sex. The same goes if you’re looking to date, the chances are Prince Charming won’t sweep you off your feet if you’re replying with one word answers and only asking him what sexual position he prefers. If you’re looking for a bit of fun, say you’re looking for a bit of fun. You’ve got to put dating apps into perspective and be honest with yourself. Because in reality, there are literally thousands of good guys out there. One thing we’ve got to stop saying to ourselves is ‘there are no decent guys out there’ and have a little faith. But creating the perfect guy in your head and comparing everyone you meet to him, not only creates unrealistic standards, it also scares off people who you might actually have been suited with. Having a huge list of requirements people have to live up to not only lowers your chances of meeting someone, it can give you unrealistic ideas of who you actually want to date. There’s nothing wrong with having core values, characteristics or even a type. We often create this unrealistic idea of who we want to meet, and anyone that falls short of that we set aside and continue our search. If he doesn’t fit our checklist, we put him back on the shelf. We’ve become so set in our ways, we treat dating like shopping. Not that we actually realise it sometimes. We now have the ability to pick up our smartphone and interact with hundreds of guys in minutes… Maybe that’s part of the problem, we’re spoilt for choice. Whether it’s monogamous or open, honesty is always the key.
As long as all parties are open and stick to the rules, they work. The kind of relationship you want is down to you.
But that doesn’t mean you have to change what you want. Relationships, sex and sexuality are evolving. The way we date, meet people and socially interact is forever changing, we often forget that we have to adjust to the landscape we’re now surrounded with. It’s no secret relationships can be harder to find in the LGBT+ community, but I’m tired of seeing articles saying ‘gay men are incapable of love’ and ‘monogamy is over’. In a world almost obsessed with love, why do so many gay men struggle to find the relationship they crave so much?